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The secret formula to overcome impostor syndrome
The secret formula to overcome impostor syndrome
Have you ever started a sentence with “who am I to …” or felt like a fraud or not enough of an expert despite all of your accomplishments? Or felt hypocritical about supporting people with something when you think you haven’t been able to do it yourself yet?
If so, you probably have impostor syndrome (just like 70% of other people, according to a study in the International Journal of Behavioral Science.). The great news is that you can overcome it, once you do, you open the doors to incredible fulfilment, confidence, abundance and income.
So what is impostor syndrome?
Impostor syndrome is an umbrella term that describes anxiety, doubt or fear about our skills, knowledge and competence in general, feeling like we are not an expert and that people around us do a better job than us, or not feeling legitimate in what we’re doing.
• Typically, when we achieve something (graduation, a new client, a successful launch, etc…), we’ll attribute it to “luck” or think it’s “normal” rather than being proud.
• At the same time, we beat ourselves up relentlessly when we don’t reach a goal, or when something doesn’t go as planned.
This double standard drains our confidence and self-worth and it can snowball into emotional and physical burnout, feeling uninspired, not wanting to take action because it just doesn’t feel right and taking months off the business and feeling horrible about it.
Frequent signs of impostor syndrome are the following:
• Feeling like we need more certifications, more diplomas and more skills to finally feel competent enough
• Fear of failure makes us overthink and procrastinate;
• Undercharging because we’re worried clients won’t get results;
• We think that our own “success” is an appropriate indicator of our ability to help people, so we feel hypocritical or like a fraud about supporting others if our life is not 100% like we want it to be.
Can you relate?
At a deep, subconscious level, impostor syndrome is triggered by a sense of « I am not good enough ». This inaccurate belief is usually formed early on in our childhood mainly because we are wired to seek approval and love from our primary caretakers. If the latter isn’t able to give us the validation and unconditional love we need, we will subconsciously think it’s because something is wrong with us or that we aren’t good enough.
This triggers a quest to always achieve more, to prove to ourselves and others that we are indeed good enough and worthy of love, but it never works because self-worth is an inside job.
The combination of wanting to achieve more and beating ourselves up when we don’t often lead to procrastination and not taking action in the business because it all feels too overwhelming, leading to even more impostor syndrome.
From impostor to unstoppable: the formula to overcome impostor syndrome
Firstly, when our confidence goes down, impostor syndrome goes up, so it’s a priority to build unshakable confidence. One of the fastest and most powerful ways to do that is to keep the promises we make to ourselves, and always do what we say we’re going to do. Because when we don’t, we self-abandon the version of us who has hopes, dreams and a vision, which damages our self-esteem and self-worth and opens to door to being continuously disappointed in ourselves.
Second, we need to realize that we only need to be two steps ahead of our clients. We don’t need to know it all, we don’t need to reinvent the wheel, and we don’t need any specific degrees. We only need to be able to help someone who is two steps behind us. The formula to that is simple: believing wholeheartedly in what we do (the process), and how life-changing it is, and putting ourselves out of that equation so our sense of achievement (or lack of it) becomes irrelevant in the process of helping our clients.
Lastly and most importantly, we need to release limiting beliefs and heal the trauma that made us feel not good enough directly at the subconscious level, so we can feel worthy regardless of our education level, what we’ve achieved, how much we make, or where we are at in life. You are enough just because you are.
Only when we feel good enough on the inside are we able to feel proud and satisfied with ourselves, not the other way around. Building self-worth and self-esteem is the key to overcoming impostor syndrome, and the fastest way to do that is through subconscious work to remove old, inaccurate beliefs that other people gave us and rewire our minds with new, healthy and expansive ones.
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About the Author:
Ines Padar is a former investment analyst turned into a spiritual mindset and business coach. She’s also an expert in impostor syndrome and created the Impostor Syndrome Terminator® frameworks to help ambitious women conquer impostor syndrome at the subconscious level so they can shatter the glass ceiling and bring their business or career to a whole new level.
Working with hundreds of ambitious women and entrepreneurs in different industries allowed her to identify typical patterns and blocks in women suffering from impostor syndrome. Her unique 3-pillar process empowers entrepreneurs to build unshakable self-confidence and self-worth and allows them to unleash their manifestation powers so they can reach new levels of fulfilment, freedom and income.