Tina is a feminine embodiment coach, writer, speaker, possibility agent, and unapologetic wild woman. She’s fiercely devoted to helping female leaders break up with limiting beliefs, ditch their not-good-enough-ness, and reclaim their voice so that they can thrive from boardroom to bedroom and everywhere in-between.

Healing the Sister Wound to Help Women Build Stronger Connections

Healing the Sister Wound to Help Women Build Stronger Connections

Let’s talk about something we don’t often admit. We have all felt it – that pang of jealousy or suspicion when we see another woman succeeding. Maybe it feels like you’re constantly competing with other women for recognition and promotions, or you’ve struggled to trust other women

These feelings stem from a deeper cause. A wounding that carries the weight of centuries of mistrust, The Sister Wound. It’s been passed down for generations, rooted in centuries of patriarchal oppression that’s pitted women against each other. The word ‘sister’ is used liberally – it’s the manifestation of women living in a patriarchal society who have had to use unhealthy coping mechanisms to survive and have not processed that grief and pain. 

Before patriarchy, before colonialism – women depended on other women. It’s our natural default setting to nurture and there were mutual benefits from working together. Then the burning times happened, and fear has been used as a tool to control women and silence those who dare to speak out ever since. Women had to betray their sisters to save themselves. The more divided women became, the less power they had. 

As a result, we’re often faced with a unique set of challenges when it comes to building relationships with each other. The subconscious patterns are deeply ingrained and can affect our ability to form authentic and empowering relationships. Healing from the Sister Wound requires a willingness to be vulnerable, let go of old beliefs, and embrace true connection.  

We’ve got to start with ourselves first and begin with acknowledging that this wound exists and recognizing how it’s impacting our relationships and how it manifests in our lives. Start to actively seek out and support other women. We can mentor or sponsor other women in our field, or simply show up to support other women in our personal lives. By doing that we can create a culture of empowerment and allyship that benefits everyone. 

In business, we can work to create environments that are supportive and empowering for women and advocate for policies that promote gender equity and inclusion or create mentorship programs that help women navigate daily challenges of the workplace. By working together, we can create a culture of empowerment that allows everyone to thrive. 

Let’s support each other. It won’t be easy, but it’s worth it. Let’s become allies rather than being enemies and rediscover the beauty of authentic connections. Let’s heal our Sister Wound together.

Here Are A Few Ways How You Can Step Into True Connection

1. Embracing Vulnerability: Nurturing the Courage to be Seen

Show vulnerability. It takes strength to let down our guard and reveal our true selves, with all our fears, insecurities, and struggles. By embracing our weaknesses, we create a safe space where trust and genuine connections can flourish. It’s within these spaces that we realize that we’re not alone in our experiences. Comparison and competition often arise when we feel like we have something to prove. Encourage other women to share their fears and struggles. By being vulnerable with each other, we can create a safe space for connection and empathy

2. Shifting from Competition to Collaboration: Empowering Each Other’s Success

Competition has been the norm in corporate environments, leaving little room for genuine support or collaboration. When we release the need to compete and instead focus on support, something magical happens. We see that we’re stronger together and our collective success outweighs individual achievements. By lifting each other up, we foster an environment where everyone can thrive. Instead of viewing other women as competition, encourage collaboration. Show others how working together can lead to greater success and fulfilment. Share examples of successful partnerships and collaborations

3. Celebrating Each Other’s Successes: Finding Joy in Collective Triumphs

In a world that fosters envy and comparison, celebrating the successes of fellow corporate women becomes a radical act of empowerment. When we genuinely celebrate each other’s accomplishments, we cultivate a culture of support, inspiration and encouragement. By embracing a mindset of abundance, we create space for everyone to shine, knowing that one woman’s success doesn’t diminish our own.
When someone else succeeds, it’s easy to feel jealous or resentful. Instead, make a conscious effort to celebrate other women’s successes. Congratulate them or offer to take them out for coffee to celebrate

4. Nurturing a Positive Culture: Planting Seeds of Kindness and Compassion

Gossip and negativity are toxic weeds that thrive in workplaces. To change, we must consciously reject these harmful patterns and instead cultivate a positive culture. By replacing gossip with kindness, criticism with constructive feedback, and judgment with compassion, we sow the seeds of an environment where authentic connections can take root and flourish. Encourage other women to focus on their own growth and development, rather than comparing themselves to others. Emphasize the importance of learning, growth, and improvement

5. Cultivating a Growth Mindset: Unleashing Our Unlimited Potential

Comparison stems from a fixed mindset that believes success is a finite resource. To overcome that, we must cultivate a growth mindset that recognizes the unlimited potential within each of us. By encouraging personal development, supporting individual journeys, and celebrating progress rather than perfection, we create an environment that values growth, learning, and resilience. Lead by example and show other women how you’re working to shed old patterns. Share your own struggles and successes. By being a role model, you can inspire others to do the same

Overcoming the Sister Wound requires a willingness to let go of old patterns and beliefs. When we do this, we create a world where women can truly thrive and support each other in business and in life. It not only benefits us as individuals but can also have a positive impact on organizational culture, diversity, and inclusion. 

When women feel safe and supported in the workplace, they’re more likely to contribute their unique perspectives and ideas. This can lead to greater creativity and innovation, which can ultimately benefit the organization as a whole. By fostering a culture of empowerment and collaboration, organizations can attract and keep talented and diverse employees. They’re better equipped to advocate for themselves and each other, too. 

Together, we can create a corporate landscape that values authentic connection, emotional well-being, and the collective power of empowered women.

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Tina is a feminine embodiment coach, writer, speaker, possibility agent, and unapologetic wild woman. She’s fiercely devoted to helping female leaders break up with limiting beliefs, ditch their not-good-enough-ness, and reclaim their voice so that they can thrive from boardroom to bedroom and everywhere in-between.

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