Skyrocket Your Self-love With This One Activity

When we love ourselves, we become unstoppable. The way we show up to face challenges, what we tolerate in our relationships, and whether or not we go after our dreams all depends on us loving ourselves. 

Self-love is about more than our self-care routines. It is a part of an identity and mindset that we embody. It is about deeply knowing that we are inherently valuable and deserve to have our core needs met.

All of us are born with a love for ourselves. As we experience pain in life, we develop false beliefs about who we are, based on the opinions of others. We start to tell ourselves stories about why we aren’t worthy or why we aren’t good enough. We put other people’s needs above our own and forget about ourselves. This lack of belief in ourselves can demotivate us. Self-love is the fuel we need to pursue our extraordinary goals and the good news is that we can do something to cultivate it.

It’s time to declare our love for ourselves! Creating a self-love statement will help you skyrocket your self-love no matter how you currently feel about yourself. It is natural to have moments of self-doubt and insecurity when we’ve been triggered. When we find ourselves being hyper-critical toward ourselves, writing our self-love statement will remind us of our worth. 

4 Steps on How to Sky-rocket Your Self-Love

Step 1. Start by checking in with yourself 

It’s important to take a moment of quiet reflection before starting this activity. It helps to be seated in a comfortable position without distractions. Ground yourself and become present with your body for a moment. Put your hand on your heart and feel the rhythm of your heart beating.  It’s okay if there is discomfort at first. You are having a human moment. When you feel more at ease physically, move on to step two. 

Step 2. Grab your journal and make a declaration 

At the top of a blank page, write the following self-love declaration: 

“I am valuable. I am good enough. I deserve to have my core needs met.” 

Pause and check in with how that statement feels. There is likely a part of you that knows that statement is true. There are also likely many stories from your past that may come to the surface to convince you that it isn’t true. You need to get clear on what these beliefs are, so you can skyrocket your self-love and move on to step three. 

Step 3. List out your ‘Even If’s’

As your negative stories start to challenge your self-love declaration, list them all as ‘even if’ statements. For example: “Even if I don’t feel good about how my body looks right now, I am valuable. I am good enough and I deserve to have my core needs met.” And: “Even if I was rejected for a position I really wanted, I am valuable. I am good enough and I deserve to have my core needs met.”

Continue to list all the reasons you think you aren’t good starting with ‘even if’ followed by your self-love declaration and then proceed to step four. 

Step 4. Take Loving Action Now 

How does the version of you who fully loves herself and knows her worth show up in the world? What would be different if you were operating from this belief? For example, the woman who knows that she is valuable even if her body doesn’t meet society’s standards might dress up in a way that sparks joy. The woman who knows her value might believe that not getting the position she wanted is actually a sign that something better is on its way to her, and she will continue to invest in herself and prepare for it when it does. 

We tell other people how much we love them all the time. It’s important to continue to declare our love toward ourselves. When we write our ‘even if’ statements, we are affirming that our self-love is not conditional based on our mistakes or whether someone else sees our worth. 

Continue to repeat your personal self-love statement until it’s part of your identity. There is no limit to how much you can do this activity. Anytime you need a confidence boost, grab your journal, make the declaration and watch as you skyrocket your self-love! 

About the Author

Name: Jiselle Gilliard Jegousse

Professional Title: Emotions Coach, Creator of The Mighty Emotions MethodTM 

Bio: Jiselle is the host of The Mighty Emotions Podcast and creator of Mighty Emotions, a digital platform helping adults feel empowered by their emotions and fulfilled in their lives. She helps adults discover their personal power by teaching them to understand and process their emotions. As a result, her clients have healed their past traumas, become more emotionally resilient, and learned to love themselves. Her book Outrunning Your Emotions: Face Your Feelings, Find Your Power & Love Yourself comes out in August 2023.

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