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Self-Concept – Your Secret Sauce to Succeed in Life
People often attempt to live their lives backward: they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want, so they will be happier. The way it works is the reverse. You must first BE who you really are, then DO what you really need to do, in order to HAVE what you want.
It all starts with YOU. And the concept you have about you. Your self-concept. What you believe about yourself to be true, is the way you see yourself. This is 95% of your results. Strategy on HOW to do something is only 5%.
Look at two people who go to the same training, listen to the same speaker, have access to the same content, and one of them becomes successful and the other one still struggles. It’s not the training, it’s the person.
YOUR RESULTS IN LIFE CAN NEVER BE GREATER THAN YOUR SELF-CONCEPT.
Period. You can have all the strategies in place, and all the resources but the step number 1 is always self-concept.
You’re amazing, do you know that?
As a person, who went through multiple miscarriages, I know, the fact that you were born is a miracle in itself. You’re a miracle. Read this sentence again. Feel it. Accept it.
You were born perfect. No adjustments are needed.
And then along the way, programmed by family, teachers, society, religion, and institutions, you stopped believing it. Maybe you even went through some traumatic experiences, and you stopped believing it even more…
But… this is not who you really are. The real you has been dusted, pushed down and it’s time to claim your power back.
So, let’s adjust your self-concept to awaken the confidence rockstar within, so you feel courageous enough to do anything.
How To Adjust Your Self-concept to Awaken the Confidence Rockstar Within
1. Ask yourself this – if I could put a label on my forehead, what would that be? Shy, not good enough, ugly, stupid… how do you see yourself?
Your actions are always in sync with the way you really see yourself. Not how you want to see yourself, but how you really feel in your skin. For instance, if you consider yourself to be shy, you won’t ever sit in the front row or raise your hand when the speaker asks if anyone has questions (even if you do). Because shy people don’t do that. You don’t do it on purpose, this is your subconscious running your behaviour and your subconscious operates on your current self-concept.
2. Now decide on your new self-concept – how do you want to see yourself, what’s your new label, who are you?
Confident, successful, smart, powerful, unstoppable, choose the label you truly desire (don’t think about the how here, choose what puts your soul on fire).
3. Write a script of that new version of you (the real you) like the screenwriter creates a movie character.
How do you think, feel, talk, behave, act, make decisions, and present to the world? Use present tense: I’m a top-class businesswoman, I’m magnetic to my ideal clients, I’m a confident speaker, I value myself and my services, I sell with ease, and I look like a million dollars. Start acting like that woman now. Walk like her, talk like her, look like her. Be her. This is who you truly are.
4. Align your energy.
Bob Proctor said the law of vibration is the primary law because vibration causes attracstion. It says: “We don’t get what we want, we get what we vibrate with.” When we operate from low frequencies like anger, grief, jealousy, sadness, and frustration, we can’t attract high-level emotions like love, joy, or happiness. Watch your feelings and if you don’t feel like you want to feel, change it. Focus on gratitude, love, and abundance, and do what makes you feel happy to experience to adjust your energy and attract what you desire. It’s magic.
5. Change your focus.
What you focus on expands. Stop focusing on what you lack, what’s wrong with you, because there’s nothing wrong with you at all. Focus on what you’re good at, and what your strengths are, and make a list of a minimum of 20 achievements in your life, things that you’re proud of. And read this list out loud every day. Again feel it. Where focus goes, energy flows. This is how you strengthen that confidence muscle. I talk more about this in my Confidence Rockstar podcast check here.
6. Watch your language.
Your words create your reality. Be mindful of what comes out of your mouth. Eliminate the words like: “I can’t”, and “it’s impossible”. Be careful with generalisations like never, always, everywhere, everyone, no one: “No one ever buys from me”, “I always have such bad luck”. Look at the emotional aspect of the words – something happens and we say: “It’s a disaster”, well – war is a disaster, earthquake is a disaster, and people dying is a disaster. What’s going on in our life hardly ever is a disaster. Flip your words from negative ones to positive ones. Use the words you want to see in reality, and it will come.
You’re a miracle.
You weren’t born to play small, to fit in.
You were born to stand out, to shine your light, to inspire others, and to make this world a better place.
Awaken that Confidence Rockstar Within to Go for Your Greatest Desires.
You deserve this.
About the Author
Name: Alex Grzybek
Professional Title: Confidence & Business Success Mentor
Bio: Alex Grzybek helps ambitious female entrepreneurs, who struggle with the confidence to THRIVE in the online business & get a consistent flow of clients. She shows how to fill your programs and calendar with ease through the power of speaking and highly-converting online events.
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