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Remade, Remodelled: The Power of That Woman
There’s something about a woman that knows herself inside and out. That woman that knows her power and knows the good and bad she can do with it but chooses good. That woman takes control of her emotional, mental and spiritual well-being and is always the driver, never letting her actions be dictated by her emotions or circumstances. She nurtures people in the simplest ways – through touch, an embrace, a smile, or a word. That woman understands that she has to work on and stretch ‘her self’ in order to be a light to herself and this world. That is the power of that woman.
Her energy is infectious. It will tell you exactly how to treat her and what to give her; it will light up your world and change you forever. This whole and holy woman is in you and in me and she is waiting to birth our biggest dreams out of our deepest fears and failures.
She is calling for us to let go of our insecurities… no more doubts, no more anxiety, and no more letting their words overpower ours because what we believe is our truth and carries way more value.
I’ve been on a journey to renew, remake and remodel everything that is me in order to embrace the power of that woman. Here’s how I was able to do it:
1. I Learned Me…
My first step was to get to fully know and learn myself. My moods, my triggers, my stressors….what stimulated me, and what my responses were to those stimuli. We spend so much time learning from others but don’t truly know ourselves. Do you know what you do when you’re happy…what actions you display and the language you use? What about when you are confused or fearful?
I’ve learned over time to pay more attention to myself. If I don’t know myself, how can I expect anyone else to? In doing this, I’ve discovered small but big things that tell me exactly how I’m feeling and why I’m feeling that way.
Small things like, when I’m in a great mood I make a weird popping sound with my lips or I whistle. When I’m confused or perplexed, I fold my lips between my fingers and use my thumbs to rub them – too much info I know but at least you know that I pay close attention to myself (lol).
I’ve discovered bigger things like when I’m overwhelmed or frustrated by someone or something I retreat in order to process. During that period, I try my best not to focus on or overthink the situation. My approach is to take a small break from it and then process. Once I’ve processed it, I can then deal with the situation in the best way possible to represent that remade and remodeled woman.
See most people would never know or believe that I struggled with anger in the past. It was one of my strongest emotions because of past trauma. I choose to retreat in order to process before dealing with certain situations because of this past issue.
“She didn’t look shattered to me; she was breathtaking, mosaic of the battles she’s won” – Matt Baker (quote for image)
Again, learning our moods and what we do when we go through them can alert us to our triggers and even help us communicate exactly how we are feeling to our partners and loved ones in a more effective way.
2. I Explored My Strengths and Weaknesses
In learning myself I celebrated my strengths but knew that I had to focus on my weaknesses. My first step was to admit what they were. We should all be comfortable enough with ourselves, to be honest enough to admit where work needs to be done. Self-awareness is extremely important and necessary for growth and true success.
Once I identified the areas of concern, the work began. I researched and got as much information as I could on each area (Google is definitely my best friend lol). I also studied people that were successful at overcoming these issues. I connected with those that I could speak to directly and questioned them about how they were able to accomplish what I was trying to achieve.
Next, I emulated those around me that possessed the traits that I was trying to attain. I watched the movements in particular of a friend, that seemed to have what was an area of concern for me figured out. I saw how calm, cool, and collected he was when dealing with people and situations. I even witnessed him get into an accident one day, and he displayed the same steady, even-tempered behavior. I was thoroughly impressed as I gazed in admiration from a distance. At that moment, I was sure that I wanted to be more like this.
Further, I am a faith-driven woman so along with reaching out to others I turned to my Heavenly Father for answers and direction. I prayed for restoration and once I was open to the process it began. My actions lined up with what I was praying for and things started to unfold. It was not an easy process; I slipped many times but continued to be consistent with my efforts behind the goal of restoration.
3. ‘Forget Em’ Became A Mantra
My next step was to stop overthinking and worrying about what others thought of me. We live in a place where it’s guaranteed that people will talk about you (it’s a favorite pastime). So I focused on this ‘forget em’ method because I know for sure that there are many that I will never please.
Just an FYI – some people have already made up their minds about you and there’s nothing you can do to change their position. Remember, some people don’t need a reason not to like you, if that’s what they want to do they’ll just do it. This update was given to me in my early 20s by a dear friend and I was very grateful to receive it.
I can only promise to be true to myself and respectful to everyone (the talkers and non-talkers) because that is what I have been called to do. Respect people no matter what and let their own convictions lead them. I’m only responsible for me.
4. ‘Keep It Moving’….
“Don’t focus on the people or things that represent the 10%, focus on the 90% and keep it moving”. This advice was offered to me by someone that affected me in a very positive way. It was given after a live performance in a production that I was a part of. I received great feedback on my performance but instead of focusing on the supporters (the 90%), I allowed the comments of two people (the 10%) to sidetrack me and throw me off course. I was quickly brought back to reality by the director who gave me this great advice.
We really don’t have time to allow ourselves to overthink or overplay what he, she or it thinks or said. It’s a waste of time and energy. The longer we think about it, the more we give passage to anxiety, doubt, and fear which leads to anger and anguish.
Take this great advice that I received and keep it moving. Focus on the 90% (supporters) and not the 10% (non-supporters) because there is always more good than bad.
5. Trust Your Process and Your Natural Connections
Over the years I’ve found myself trying to connect with certain people because I’ve always chosen who I spend my time with. In some cases, the interest was not reciprocated. I did not understand this but allowed things to play out naturally. In all cases, I found out later that those individuals were either negative, gossipy, and/or treated people poorly, and then it all made sense. These people were never supposed to be a part of my process. We have different beliefs and practices on many different things. My process saved me from wasted time, bad connections, and in some cases bad people. I will trust my process every time.
So….because there’s so much more to share about this process, I’ve just decided to deem this part 1 of “Remade & Remodelled”. Part 2 will be shared soon.
Until then, I encourage you to learn even more about YOU because YOU deserve your own time and attention, give that to yourself! And together, let’s focus only on the 90% and forget the 10% because they are just not worth it and we just gotta keep it movin’!! Start to embrace the power of that woman!
About the Author
Name: Earlene Camielle
Title: TV Host, Producer, Casting Director & Purpose Coach
Bio: TV personality, entrepreneur, Producer & Actress, Earlene Camielle has evolved from playing it safe in the corporate world to living out purpose & passion daily. Evolving many times over the past 42 years, this project manager, operations, and leadership expert spent most of her career in hospitality but has pivoted & successfully ventured into media and entrepreneurship.