Tara Hailsip

Tara Haislip is an Intuitive Career Coach, International Bestselling Author, and the CEO of Grounded Energy111. She helps women balance their masculine and feminine energy (regardless of gender) to help reduce burnout, increase productivity, and live their definition of work-life balance. Tara combines her clairvoyant gifts with intuitive readings and coaching to help her clients break through burnout cycles faster than traditional career coaching. Tara enjoys writing multi-author books and speaking on podcasts and at conferences. She’s been featured in publications such as Medium, GirlBoss, and Elpha. She will be speaking at the Power Up 2023 Concert and Conference in Los Angeles, California on the topic, Boss Up: How to Be a 360 Leader of Your Life. To learn more about Tara visit www.groundedenergy111.com and follow her on Instagram @grounded_energy111.

Finding My Voice of Inspiration

Opening the Flood Gates: Finding My Voice of Inspiration

The Beginning

I grew up with a brother seven years older than me in a divorced household. I was a surprise baby in addition to my parents not knowing my gender until I was born. Upon my birth, my parents learned that I was a girl which catalyzed my mother’s desire to provide a better home life environment.

My parents separated by the time I was two and were fully divorced by the time I was three years old. It was a huge change from my birth to my parent’s divorce in only three years. Energetically, it was a lot of chaos with a much older brother verbally processing all that was happening while I was too young to vocalize what I was experiencing. However, I could feel the shift in moods between my parents and brother. As I began to grasp language to communicate how I felt I was (still am) a very fiery personality. I’ve learned to tone down the fire over the years.

From childhood until young adulthood, I was always told that I was too loud, bossy, opinionated, ornery, angry, and so on. The way I learned to use my voice to express my feelings and emotions was very forceful. I was trying to figure out where I fit in between two parents in their environments. I often found my emotions and feelings suppressed. The more my emotions were dismissed the more unsure of myself I became. As I moved out of toddlerhood into the age of being a kid, I was compared to other women in the family whenever I tried to express my feelings. Moving into my pre-teen years, the comparison would shut me down.

This caused me to bottle up my emotions until they would come spilling out of me, at random, from all directions in contrast to what triggered the response. Entering my teenage years, my emotional response to things was so volatile and out of context that I was being told that I was moody, emotional, and unstable in addition to all the others. This left me feeling as though I had to hide who I was if I was going to fit in – in my small town and the world.

The Flood Gates Opened

Until I moved to Philadelphia to attend the University of the Arts, it was during my years in Philadelphia that I found my voice. I’ll never forget being at an event with some friends trying to get someone’s attention when one of my friends said you’re going to need to learn to be a lot louder than that to be heard. At that moment, I realized just how much I had been suppressing my voice.

I started to go to the other extreme of the spectrum. I was becoming louder in volume, and tone, and with a hardcore attitude of no f-cks to give. I hurt many people around me. I became a harsher, darker, version of myself over the years until I didn’t recognize the person staring back at me.

When I hit a rock-bottom moment in my life; I had no career, no friends, and no family (close by). My self-esteem had bottomed out. My voice negatively impacted all my relationships – personal, professional, romantic, and with myself. I had to learn to find my true voice which meant healing my internal dialogue. This journey started with a book, You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay followed by traditional therapy which evolved into holistic therapy.

As I healed my internal dialogue, I healed my external dialogue. This allowed my life to move in a more positive direction. I learned to say how I felt in the moment unattached to an outcome. I was grounded within myself and my truths by using my voice to lift myself up without putting others down.

The more I did this the more people gravitated toward me for guidance and advice. I naturally progressed into lifestyle coaching which then evolved into public speaking and writing in multiauthored books to positively impact others’ lives on a larger scale.

How to Practice Finding Your Voice:

  • Internal Dialogue Forgive Yourself

  1. Face the harsh things you’re saying to yourself by writing them down.
  2. Then, write a letter to yourself forgiving yourself and honoring that you were doing the best you could at the time.
  3. Practice an affirmation to help you flip your mindset in the moment – ex. “I have control over my reactions, I choose peace + calm.”
  • External Dialogue The Power of No Reaction

  1. When you feel yourself wanting to immediately react to a situation, pause, to ask yourself “Will my response help or hinder the situation?”
  2. Take a moment to self-assess what is happening in front of you at the moment.
  3. Respond to the situation according to what is happening in the moment vs. what has happened in your past in a similar situation.

My Voice of Inspiration

My practice, Grounded Enery111, is focused on helping women find their voices to find balance in their lives to go after their dreams – career, finances, relationships – without feeling held back by their past experiences.

I invite you to join my free community, The Grounded. We come together to build the foundations of our voices through Connection, Reflection, and Growth to Thrive in all areas of our lives.

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Tara Haislip is an Intuitive Career Coach, International Bestselling Author, and the CEO of Grounded Energy111. She helps women balance their masculine and feminine energy (regardless of gender) to help reduce burnout, increase productivity, and live their definition of work-life balance. Tara combines her clairvoyant gifts with intuitive readings and coaching to help her clients break through burnout cycles faster than traditional career coaching. Tara enjoys writing multi-author books and speaking on podcasts and at conferences. She’s been featured in publications such as Medium, GirlBoss, and Elpha. She will be speaking at the Power Up 2023 Concert and Conference in Los Angeles, California on the topic, Boss Up: How to Be a 360 Leader of Your Life. To learn more about Tara visit www.groundedenergy111.com and follow her on Instagram @grounded_energy111.

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