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New Year, Real You – Why New Year’s Resolutions Aren’t Working for Us Anymore
In recent years, the New Year’s Resolution has become a controversial topic. Some people love them, seeing the turn of the new year as a clean slate to finally act on the goal they’ve been putting off. For others, it’s an awkward reminder of another year gone by with yet another unfulfilled desire, and an untimely kick up the butt to attempt it again. There are strong feelings on both sides for the good old-fashioned New Year’s Resolution! But whether you love the idea, or you hate it, the question remains, do New Year’s Resolutions even work?
Did you know the most common New Year’s Resolutions year after year are health-focused goals, with losing weight, exercising more, or eating better consistently at the top of the list? And why not, improving your health and your wellbeing is always a good aspiration to have. But the reality is approximately 90% of resolutions like this will fail.
But does that mean New Year’s Resolutions don’t work? Does it mean the turn of the year shouldn’t be a marker for new challenges? Does it mean you should just give up on trying to achieve something new each year? Absolutely not, it’s all about the approach and the perspective.
The reasons these types of resolutions fail have nothing to do with the fact that they’re New Year’s Resolutions, it’s just not the defining factor that means the resolver will succeed or fail. New Year’s Resolutions fail for the same reason any goal, at any time of year, fails – the goal setter hasn’t acknowledged the significance of the impact to them.
Without taking the time to reflect on your values, wants or needs, your goals or resolutions just become nice ideas. But nice ideas don’t lead to transformation. Transformation comes from diving into a special place, a place within that’s often forgotten about and usually overlooked, the place that knows what’s most important to you. And when you can tap into this place, your nice ideas become resolutions, your resolutions become goals, and your goals become your success.
It’s time to take a different approach to the new year’s resolution, an approach that will transform the year ahead and drive you towards the unimaginable. It’s time to go within and get to know the real you, the person at your core. What does that person believe in? What does that person want? What would really change that person’s life? Because when you get to know yourself, you stop wasting time on borrowed goals or societal pressures, and you start taking actions aligned with your values and needs. And that’s where the real magic happens.
If you’re tired of attempting the same New Year’s Resolutions year after year and seeing the same lack of results, ditch the goal and focus on getting to know the real you instead.
Try these 4 simple steps that will allow you to embrace the real you, and lead you on to achieving lasting transformation:
4 Simple Steps to Embrace the Real You
1. Allow yourself time to reflect
Take yourself on a date, go for a walk, take a long bath, or just be. Without the distractions of technology, or family and friends, or colleagues and co-workers, you will gain a different perspective and insights about yourself you’ve never noticed before.
2. Get to know yourself
Find out the things you’d forgotten about yourself. What are your top 3 values? What brings you joy? What does your dream life look like? Questions like this will allow you to position your goals and aspirations in alignment with the real you.
3. Practice self-care
Simple yet powerful, self-care is a reminder that you are important too and can be a huge confidence booster that will allow you to thrive.
4. Don’t be too hard on yourself
Know that it’s better to start the year with no goals than a goal that doesn’t mean anything to you. Take the time to reconnect with yourself first and then act when you’re ready.
Results are achieved when you know deeply what you want, when you can imagine the end goal, and feel the impact it will have on your life. Results are driven by emotion. Results come from knowing the real you.
For 2024, make yourself your goal and priority. Embrace the real you and discover the transformational journey that happens when you align your life with your authentic self.
About the Author
Name: Lauren Taylor
Professional Title: Wellness Expert, Confidence Coach & Founder of Lauren Rae Wellness
Bio: Lauren is a dedicated wellness expert and the visionary behind Lauren Rae Wellness, a coaching business born from her desire to help individuals break free of feeling trapped, insecure and lost in their lives. Her journey began with a determination to show others the limitless possibilities that come when you prioritise your wellbeing and embrace your authentic self.
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